Pre-Mediation Coaching

Pre-mediation coaching aims to empower parties to participate effectively in the mediation process and increase the likelihood of reaching a successful resolution. It can be especially beneficial for individuals who may feel overwhelmed or unfamiliar with mediation or who want to maximize their chances of achieving a favorable outcome. Pre-mediation coaching is provided by a specially trained professional to help parties understand the mediation process, clarify their goals and interests, and develop effective communication and negotiation strategies. It is also used to assess if mediation is appropriate, teach skills for conflict resolution, create realistic expectations for mediation, and prepare parties for potential trouble spots during mediation.

Pre-Mediation Coaching sessions may include the following:

1. Education about Mediation: The coach provides information about the mediation process, including its benefits, structure, and what to expect during sessions. This helps parties feel more comfortable and prepared for the mediation process.

2. Goal Clarification: The coach helps parties identify their goals and interests for mediation. This may involve discussing what outcomes they hope to achieve and what is most important to them in resolving the dispute.

3. Communication Skills: Pre-mediation coaching often focuses on improving communication skills. This includes active listening, effective expression of needs and concerns, and strategies for managing emotions during mediation sessions.

4. Conflict Resolution Strategies: The coach may teach parties strategies for resolving conflicts and negotiating agreements. This could include techniques for generating options, finding common ground, and reaching mutually acceptable solutions.

5. Role-playing and Simulation: Pre-mediation coaching sessions may involve exercises to practice communication and negotiation skills in a safe environment. This helps parties feel more confident and prepared for the mediation process.

6. Customized Approach: Pre-mediation coaching is often tailored to the specific needs and circumstances of the parties involved. The coach may adapt the structure and approach based on the nature of the dispute, the personalities involved, and the desired outcomes. The coach may serve as both the coach and mediator in some situations or there may be separate people serving in each role depending on the circumstances.

Kirstina is trained in the New Ways for Families™ Pre-mediation coaching model developed by Bill Eddy LCSW Esq. and the High Conflict Institute. This model was specifically designed for high-conflict situations in which people tend to focus on the past, blame others, avoid responsibility, and get stuck in taking “positions” as well as for mediating parenting issues. However, it can be effective in nearly all situations.